One of the first things most women want to know when they find out their husband is cheating on them is: why? Why did he do it? Why wasn't I woman enough? Why couldn't he be satisfied with one woman? The "why's?" in this situation are endless.
Even worse than all the questions why is the immediate latching on to the various old wives tales concerning cheating husbands. Below are a few myths that just aren't true about why men cheat.
1) All men cheat. This is simply not true. Even given the opportunity there are some men who will not cheat. While most men, Foyle's war would cheat if they were absolutely convinced it would never get caught the vast majority of men never cheat on their wives. While this fact probably provides little comfort when you're one of the few being cheated on it should restore your faith in men and your hope for a future without cheating in it.
2) Men only cheat with the younger, faster, prettier model. This is absolutely not true. Most men who have cheated readily acknowledge (even when their wives are not present) that the other woman wasn't more attractive to them than their wives. It's not about looks so stop killing yourself on the elliptical machine to lose those two pounds that seem to be plaguing you.
3) He wouldn't cheat if he didn't love you. This is absolutely not true. Cheating has little to do with love or lack thereof. Want the shocker of your life? Cheating isn't about him being unhappy at home either. The bottom line is that men cheat because they need something they aren't getting at home. It may not be sex that the other woman got him with but a kind word, acceptance as he is, or even a chance to unwind in peace.
4) Cheating is good for the relationship. While some men (and women who have cheated) would love to use this justification it simply doesn't fly. Having an affair will not make your relationship stronger. It can help you appreciate what you have and the aftermath, the desperate attempt to save your relationship upon discovery and really working to make your relationship work can make the relationship better but that's not an effect of the affair. It's an effect of suddenly taking an interest in your marriage and making each other a priority.
Having an affair isn't the end of a relationship. It doesn't mean that your husband doesn't love you or that you make him miserable. It is a good sign that the relationship could use some work. Your big decision now is whether you're going to do the work and fight to save your marriage or call it a loss and walk away.
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